Here’s What Really Goes Down at a Clothing-Optional “Erotic” Couples Resort

My boyfriend and I excitedly opened the door to our beautiful beachfront suite, uncertain of what to anticipate after we entered. While away at dinner, our particular choice from a “fantasy menu” at Desire Riviera Maya Pearl, a clothing-optional, couples-only resort in Mexico, was being arrange for us.

We crossed the brink in anticipation, pondering we had been prepared for what was subsequent. I have to stress, emphatically, that we weren’t f*cking prepared for what was subsequent.

Let’s rewind.

We arrived a few days earlier to Desire Riviera Maya Resort, the sister to the resort the place we completed off our journey. Both are “adult” escapes for {couples}, the place clothes is elective and the place something goes. We definitely realized what “anything goes” can imply. The resorts describe themselves as locations filled with freedom, oases of “beauty and eroticism” (wholeheartedly agree) the place “fantasies become reality” (actuality, certainly).

When I first examine each resorts, my curiosity was understandably piqued. Clothing elective? Great, no extra tan traces. Couples solely? My boyfriend was very down. Sexy reveals each night time, nice meals, and sensual experiences geared towards turning up the warmth in your relationship? Sign us up.

Desire Riviera Maya and Pearl are all about creating an surroundings of openness, the place individuals can discover their sexual wishes in a secure, accepting place amongst like-minded individuals. Couples (largely, however not all) of their 30s to 60s are in a position to escape the restrictions of on a regular basis society and embrace the life-style they search, all towards the backdrop of the gorgeous Yucatán shoreline.

I think about myself to be very open-minded, sexually adventurous, completely superb with nudity (find it irresistible, really), and absolutely supportive of pretty much anything going on between consenting adults. I’m a Love and Sex editor, for f*ck’s sake. Even if it occurs to be on public show, as is the case at the resorts, I’m down. It may even be a activate for many individuals.

On day two, nevertheless, as I discovered myself in a pool-size intercourse spa filled with company – all utterly nude – sandwiched in between one of the crucial engaging girls I’d ever seen in actual life (not complaining one bit right here) and her down-for-pretty-much-anything boyfriend, it occurred to me that my important different and I had been in approach, approach over our heads. We rolled with it, to an extent. But it wasn’t precisely the expertise we anticipated. For the primary time in my grownup life, I felt extremely naive and unprepared – and it was fairly hilarious. For essentially the most half.

Most company coming to resorts like these are typically educated about what happens there. In reality, one of many questions we had been most often requested within the 5 days we spent at each locations was “are you two lifestylers?” This is the query {couples} typically pose with a view to get a really feel for whether or not one other couple is open to swinging. We had been advised that round 60 p.c of the individuals who come to the resorts are swingers – individuals who swap companions and/or interact in group intercourse – however I’m satisfied primarily based on our private expertise that the quantity is simply a bit greater.

The resorts are lovely and all-inclusive (drinks, too!), with spacious suites, a number of swimming pools and scorching tubs, numerous eating places and bars open all hours of the day and night time, and further facilities like spas, salons, and shops full of the entire horny outfits and equipment you can ask for. Forgot your lube? No downside. Everything is the place you want it, while you want it. The workers is extraordinarily pleasant, useful, and utterly nonjudgmental, and total had been a spotlight of the journey for us.

But – and there may be a however – first-timers ought to concentrate on what they’re diving into. The golden rule that every one company should comply with upon arrival is that “no means no” – which ought to provide you with an concept of what sort of issues go down every day. This is not a nudist resort the place individuals largely maintain to themselves. This is a full-on intercourse resort, with public rooms embellished with spherical pink and black leather-based beds devoted to group intercourse, large scorching tubs the place {couples} and teams can go at it to their hearts’ wishes, and the place (in my case) making an attempt to casually rock a bathing swimsuit backside made me stand out among the many sea of naked butts. This is totally what many individuals are in search of in a getaway – and I’m so glad that there is locations that exist the place {couples} can actually be themselves and the place that is celebrated.

Fast-forward again to the night time we returned from dinner pondering we had been getting a informal non-public dance in our suite . . .

The very first thing I noticed was the intercourse swing that had been drilled into our ceiling whereas we had been gone for barely an hour. Impressive. Our bathtub was full of bubbles and roses, our mattress utterly lined with the petals as properly. A bottle of Champagne chilled close by. We all of the sudden began having second ideas about inviting our new couple buddies alongside for what we (stupidly, in hindsight) believed to be the type of foolish striptease you see at bachelor events that final all of 10 minutes. It was not.

We thought we might chat and snicker with the husband and spouse we might introduced together with us whereas we watched a horny efficiency, sip Champagne, and be dancing at the resort’s (really very enjoyable) disco very quickly. Nope. It was the erotic preamble to what would’ve been intercourse with my boyfriend – guided by a lovely (and amazingly candy) girl decked out in black lace and silk. But (on account of my very own obliviousness) it changed into the preamble for what was basically a foursome – since I’d invited our newfound buddies alongside for the (literal) trip. I suppose the rose petals on the mattress ought to have been my purple flag?

Needless to say, we skipped the group intercourse (wasn’t actually our ideally suited situation, however completely nice for different {couples} enthusiastic about one thing like this!), dipped out, and headed to the disco the place we made it simply in time to see a badass dancer carry out one of many coolest aerial reveals I’ve ever seen. Our buddies, who laughed good-naturedly and incredulously requested how we did not know what the deal was all alongside, joined us on the dance ground. Crisis averted. Our ignorance about what an “erotic couples massage” actually means is a entire different story . . .

Did the resorts play a half in serving to my boyfriend and me spice up the romance after greater than 5 years of relationship? Absolutely. We received nearer not solely due to our admittedly awkward roller-coaster trip, but in addition as a result of the resorts actually do foster a sense of eroticism and sexual openness that was totally contagious. Did we all know what we had been getting ourselves into? Absolutely not. Did we’ve thrilling intercourse in locations and methods we by no means have earlier than? Yup.

Bottom line, going to an erotic {couples} resort received my accomplice and me out of our consolation zones, however extra importantly, the resorts enable others who go to to actually be in their consolation zones, no matter these could also be.

Travel and bills for the creator had been supplied by Desire Riviera Maya and Pearl for the aim of penning this story.

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