Kaylah Walton
Jennifer Lopez has expressed her newfound independence as she moves towards divorcing Ben Affleck. Despite admitting that the emotional aftermath of their split had left her feeling “lonely” and “desperate,” she now feels empowered and no longer believes she requires a partner for fulfillment.
Lopez officially filed for divorce on August 20, coinciding with the second anniversary of their wedding. She cited irreconcilable differences for their separation, which she indicated began on April 26.
During their relationship, it has come to light that they did not celebrate their birthdays or anniversaries together. Affleck moved out, leaving Lopez behind as he relocated to areas like Brentwood and Pacific Palisades.
Despite acknowledging the emotional struggles that arose from these events and past relationships, Lopez emphasizes her ability to recover and recognizes that her identity is not tied to her relationships. She now finds happiness within herself.
“Break-ups can feel lonely, scary, and sad,” Lopez shared with Interview.com. “However, I’ve realized that these feelings won’t consume me, and I can find joy and happiness on my own.”
“A relationship doesn’t define who I am. I can’t search for my happiness in others; it has to come from within.”
“I used to think I was happy, but I was still waiting for someone else to fulfill me. Now, I know I am fine just as I am.”
Lopez redefines her expectations for love
As she enters the dating scene again, Lopez has changed how she views love. She is open to connecting with someone who may not be perfect for her but can offer her a sense of safety and allow her to heal.
Interestingly, she mentioned that she is not currently seeking a partner, which is a new attitude for her since her early twenties.
“It’s a perplexing and daunting realization to think that I don’t need to be perfect to be loveable,” Lopez noted. “True love involves nurturing and growth, not perfection.”
“What I’ve discovered about love is that it should feel secure. It’s about feeling safe, mutual understanding, and helping each other improve, acknowledging our respective boundaries.”
“We can address our shortcomings together and grow from them.”
