Hi,
I am 59 years old, and living in the Netherlands. I first read The Secret around 2010. But just in the last months I think I really started to understand the principle, and also that of The Greatest Secret. Here is my story:
I was married for over 25 years, and our marriage was more like two people living together who did not have too much in common anymore. We have two fantastic daughters ages 26 and 21. The older one still lives at home and the other one is studying and is home on the weekends.
A couple of months ago I started to play with the idea of how it would be if only I lived with the kids. I put on my vision board our initials with a circle around it. I was also thinking that my wife would have a good life living alone, with the kids visiting her. So there would be no bad or negative feelings.
I felt that she and I were not connected anymore. I went first with the younger one and then with the older one on vacation. We have done this for a few years now, as my wife did not like to travel. During these travels, I noticed how much fun we had and also how many very good talks we had. And, I noticed I missed that with my wife.
After I was home from the second vacation, during a small argument with my wife I suddenly said, I had enough, I think we should split. My wife said yes so fast that I knew she also wanted it too.
That was the start, and what has happened since then is just amazing.
1. I imagined that we would have a fast and friendly divorce, wrote it down and just said it would be like this, and let it go. We have not had any fights, we help each other, and we agreed on how we split.
2. I asked that we both have a new home very fast, which was almost impossible in NL nowadays. Again I wrote it down and said to everyone yes we will have a home by November. We both have wonderful, really great, new homes that we got within 4 weeks. She on Nov. 1st, and I on Nov 10th. I only reacted to one rental offer and pretended it would be mine. I made it through a list of 48 people applying for that apartment. Just by believing it was mine, I already imagined how we would arrange all the furniture.
3. I asked that the kids would be OK and not be angry. And both of them took it very lightly, and they also looked forward to having new rooms.
4. I asked to get a good price for the house that we had to sell. The amount I had written down was only off by 2,000 euros. It is not yet 100% signed, but I believe it will be.
5. I needed money for the divorce and asked for an amount to pay for it, and a few days later my mother offered to lend me that amount until we sold the house.
6. I always wanted a nice Gratitude stone. Our dog died 3 years ago, and each year on her birthday we always visit her favorite Animal Park to honor her. During the last time we went, I sat on a bench and just there sitting at my feet was a painted stone. Here in NL, people often just place painted stones anywhere. I immediately knew this was my stone.
What did I do differently now compared with the last 13 years in practicing The Secret? I believe it was my attitude. I let negative thoughts happen and then watch them pass by. I expected and believed in my desires and that things would happen as I imagined them. I am more grateful, and I am now always friendly to people. I do not nag anymore. I noticed that this has a very big impact on how happy I feel if I only see the good in people and if I am always friendly and positive.
I still have doubts sometimes, and sometimes I still think more pessimistically, but now I try to also let it happen and pass on. And because of all this, I am a lot less stressed.
The Secret can be hard, but once you really understand it, it is actually easy. I never had so many moments that I felt so absolutely happy in my life before.
Thanks to Rhonda and The Secret team.
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