When You’d Rather Talk to Others Than Your Spouse, Act Now

The leader of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, Pastor Enoch Adeboye, has shared an important message aimed at married individuals.

He emphasized that if one partner finds themselves more comfortable discussing matters with others rather than their spouse, it indicates “trouble is brewing.” 

Adeboye pointed out that in the quest for success and financial stability, some men end up working far from home, leading to family separation. Such circumstances often make it easier for couples to grow distant or even seek relationships outside their marriage. He stressed the importance of consciously investing time together to prevent drifting apart. 

In part of his message, he remarked:

“Long-distance dating has been around, but we are now witnessing long-distance marriages. These types of relationships are, however, detrimental to families. While temporary separations can occur for unavoidable reasons, they shouldn’t be extended. Numerous cases of marital infidelity stem from one spouse’s absence. In some situations, couples who live together also experience emotional distance, often because one partner leaves early and returns late.

Such dynamics lead to living separate lives, increasing the likelihood that one or both partners will develop connections with those they interact with in their spouse’s absence. These relationships can lead to inappropriate affairs. If you find yourself more engaged in conversations with others rather than your spouse, it’s a sign of concern. Preferring to socialize outside instead of cherishing moments at home can indicate deeper issues. If intimate conversations are happening with friends of the opposite gender rather than your spouse, it’s time to reassess and address the problems in your marriage. Do not convince yourself with thoughts like, “We’re just friends; there’s nothing going on.”

Many extramarital affairs begin as simple friendships, and over time, temptations can lead to serious wrongdoing. I pray that you resist any temptation that might threaten your marriage, in Jesus’ name. For those who are married, prioritize spending quality time with your spouse; let them be your closest confidant. Engage in enjoyable outings and take walks together frequently. Set aside time each month for a date night, dress up for it, and plan a weekend getaway at least once a year to enjoy uninterrupted time with your partner. After your relationship with God, your bond with your spouse is paramount, as they have been designed to be one, as highlighted in today’s scripture. Be deliberate in nurturing your marriage, and may God bless your union, in Jesus’ name.